INVEST Marriage Stay connected

For churches and small groups

Run the Snapshot free with your couples.

Each spouse takes the INVEST Marriage Snapshot on their own phone in about five minutes. Then each couple sees what their two styles make together. Nothing to buy, no sign-up, no facilitator training.

“We fell in love with the curriculum… I would say we were coasting before and after we are thriving. It taught us so much about keeping God at the center and loving each other well.”

Anne · the INVEST study

Three ways to use it

A premarital class

  1. Each person takes the engaged edition on their own phone, apart from their future spouse. About five minutes. Scan the code below.
  2. When both have finished, they send their Snapshots to each other. Opening the other's link shows what their two styles make together.
  3. Couples talk it through with the questions below.
  4. Next: INVEST Engaged, an orientation and six premarital sessions.

Already using a premarital inventory? Keep it. The Snapshot makes a light first evening before it. See how the well-known couples assessments compare.

A small group or marriage group

  1. The week before, send your group the description below. Each spouse takes it at home on their own phone. About five minutes.
  2. Each couple sends their Snapshots to each other and reads their pairing together.
  3. At the meeting, couples sit together and work through the questions below. Anyone who wants to can share one thing with the group.
  4. Next: the eight-session INVEST Marriage study, free to read online.

A retreat or a one-night marriage event

  1. Put the code on the screen. Everyone takes it at once, on their own phone. About five minutes.
  2. Couples send their Snapshots to each other, then find a quiet corner to read their pairing together.
  3. Walk the room through Grace Place: one spouse asks and listens, then they switch. About twenty minutes each.
  4. Send them home with the free INVEST Marriage app: a Daily deposit for each other and Grace Place every week.

Questions for each couple

First, read your pairing together: what you have going for you, what to watch for, and where to begin. Then one of you asks and listens through Grace Place, and you switch.

Appreciate
“One thing I appreciate about you right now is…”
Ask
“Is there an area where I could better support, serve, or love you right now?”
Listen
“What I hear you saying is… Did I get that right?”
Act
“This week I will support you by…”

Couples answer each other, not the room. The full Grace Place · The fifteen pairings

“Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry.” James 1:19

Share it

QR code for the INVEST Marriage Snapshot
Married couplesinvest.wildfireleadership.com/t/snapshot
QR code for the INVEST Marriage Snapshot, engaged edition
Engaged couplesinvest.wildfireleadership.com/et/snapshot

Put the codes on a screen or a handout. Each opens the Snapshot on the web.

For your website, bulletin or email

The INVEST Marriage Snapshot is a free, five-minute, Christ-centered guided marriage reflection from Bill and Stephanie Lammers of Wildfire Leadership. Each spouse discovers their GRACE communication style (Guardian, Responder, Advocate, Connector or Encourager) and how they are most loved, then sees what their two styles make together and where to begin.

Take it at https://invest.wildfireleadership.com/snapshot/

A note for leaders

What to say

“Take it on your own phone. There are no right answers, and nothing is graded. When you've both finished, send it to each other and see what your two styles make together.”

What it is not

The Snapshot is a guided marriage reflection, a way to start a conversation. It is not counseling, and it is not a diagnosis.

Keep it between the two of them

Each spouse sees the other's result only after finishing their own. Nobody reads out a spouse's result to the group.

When a couple is struggling

If a couple is in crisis, the Snapshot is not the next step. Connect them with a pastor or a licensed counselor. If anyone is in danger, call 911.

Group access and retreats

Ask us about group access for your church. Bill and Stephanie Lammers lead marriage retreats: ask us about one.

Write to info@wildfireleadership.com and a person will answer.

Running the eight-session study as a group? See the group options.