INVEST Marriage
The INVEST Marriage Snapshot
The INVEST Marriage Snapshot is a free, five-minute, Christ-centered guided marriage reflection from Bill and Stephanie Lammers of Wildfire Leadership. Each spouse discovers their GRACE communication style (Guardian, Responder, Advocate, Connector or Encourager) and how they are most loved, then sees what their two styles make together and where to begin.
Start with a snapshot. Build a portrait.
What each of you gets
- 1Your GRACE style. The way you lead when you communicate, and the one close behind it: what you're like at your best, your blind spots, and the sentence you most need to hear.
- 2How you're most loved. Ten quick either-or choices show what makes you feel most cared for.
- 3Your pairing. When you've both finished, what your two styles make together, what to watch for, and where to begin. See the fifteen pairings.
How it works
Each of you takes it on your own phone: twenty short statements you rate from "not like me" to "very much like me", then the ten choices. It takes about five minutes. Nothing is graded and there are no right answers.
Your spouse sees your result only after answering their own, so neither of you is reading over the other's shoulder. In the free INVEST Marriage app your Snapshot stays with you, and it shapes the rest of the app: a Daily deposit for your spouse aimed at how they communicate, and Grace Place, a weekly conversation for the two of you.
The five GRACE styles
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Guardian
Protective and steady, seeks safety before opening up.
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Responder
Reflective and internal, slow to speak and quick to hear.
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Advocate
Direct and honest, values clarity over comfort.
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Connector
Warm and relational, leads with feelings and closeness.
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Encourager
Positive and affirming, builds the other up and keeps the peace.
Who it's for
Married couples at any stage, including the ones who never thought they needed anything like this. Engaged couples, as the habit of understanding each other starts early. Churches, small groups and retreats, as a free first step everyone in the room can take together, with nothing to administer.
Looking for a couples assessment?
Many couples arrive here looking for a couples assessment or a premarital inventory. The Snapshot is a guided reflection rather than a test: no scores, nothing to pass, and nothing it diagnoses. It sits well beside the longer, facilitator-led premarital inventories many churches use, as the free first step for every couple, including married couples who will never sit down with a facilitator. See how the well-known couples assessments compare.
For churches: how to run it with a class, a small group or a retreat, free.
Take it together.
The INVEST Marriage Snapshot is free. Each of you takes it on your own phone, and when you both have, you see what your two styles make together.
A guided reflection for your marriage, not a test or a diagnosis. No scores, nothing to pass.