To warm up
Teachable Spirit
The spirit that holds it all together
It’s no accident we end here. A teachable spirit — humility, openness, and a willingness to keep learning — is the thread that ties every INVEST principle together. It’s the posture that says, “I don’t have it all figured out, but I’m willing to grow alongside you.” Being open to learning and correction isn’t just an act of humility; it’s an act of strength that builds a strong, enduring foundation for your relationship.
Watch · Teachable Spirit — Cultivating Openness together
Scripture to Set the Tone
“Be not wise in your own eyes; fear the Lord and turn away from evil. It will be healing to your flesh and refreshment to your bones.”
Proverbs 3:7–8 (ESV)
“By wisdom a house is built, and through understanding it is established; through knowledge its rooms are filled with rare and beautiful treasures.”
Proverbs 24:3–4 (NIV)
What do these verses mean to you, and how do they emphasize the importance of a teachable spirit together?
Key Concepts and Principles
Teachability is the foundation for wisdom
Being teachable means a willingness to learn, receive instruction, and continuously seek growth. A relationship built on teachability is like a house on a firm foundation. It fosters unity, humility, and a teamwork mindset — pride, on the other hand, leads to division.
Four distinctions of teachable people
- Humility and brokenness — they live with a humble heart, acknowledging their need for growth.
- Seeking wisdom actively — they pursue wisdom and instruction, understanding it’s essential for life.
- Learning from the right teachers — they surround themselves with wise mentors and counselors.
- Receiving correction well — they see correction as an opportunity to grow.
“The ear that listens to life-giving reproof will dwell among the wise.”
Proverbs 15:31 (ESV)
The danger of condemnation. One of the biggest barriers to growth is condemnation — it shuts down communication and hinders teachability. Instead, we’re called to speak words of life.
How can you use your words to nurture a teachable spirit in your relationship?
Practical Steps · two game-changing truths
In light of eternity, what really matters? Fixing our eyes on eternity gives perspective — the daily frustrations are temporary and small next to the purpose God has for our relationship. And meekness is a deeper humility that goes beyond dying to self; it calls us to yield our personal rights and put our future spouse first. It’s not about losing — it’s about gaining a stronger bond.
“I keep all things in light of eternity, focusing on what truly matters.” · “I live in meekness, dying to my own rights, and putting my future spouse before myself.”
What is one small thing you can let go of today to focus on what truly matters, or to show meekness by putting your future spouse first?
Your Sustaining Rhythm · 1-1-1
A teachable spirit grows through consistent, small practice. That’s the 1-1-1 Rhythm — 1 daily deposit, 1 weekly pivot, 1 monthly check-in. Small deposits, big returns. The two pages that follow show the heart of it and a menu of simple ideas to choose from; make it your ongoing rhythm so this study becomes a way of life, not a season.
Pick one daily deposit, one weekly pivot, and one monthly check-in to start
Readiness Check-In · look how far you’ve come
Rate the same five statements you did in the first session (1 = rarely true, 5 = very true), on your own first. Then set your two snapshots side by side and talk them through together: celebrate every area that moved, thank each other for the growth, and choose one area you still want to keep investing in, that becomes your first focus in the 1-1-1 Rhythm.
1. We feel emotionally connected right now.
2. We communicate well, even about hard things, like money, in-laws, and how we each practice our faith.
3. We’ve talked concretely about what day-to-day married life will actually look like.
4. We are growing spiritually together.
5. We’ve talked honestly about money, family, roles, and how we handle conflict, not just about the wedding.
Your Couple Covenant
Close the study by putting words to your commitment — personal, and shared.
Future spouse 1 — my personal commitment
Future spouse 2 — my personal commitment
Our shared 'we will…' as a couple
One INVEST tool we'll keep using regularly
A Love Letter
Take time to think about your future spouse and how your love has deepened over these sessions. Write a letter naming specific things you cherish about them, and what you want them to remember about your love. Plan a special date to exchange your letters — and treasure them.
To my future spouse…
Optional Capstone · Your Marriage Mission Portrait
You each created your individual Mission Portrait in the Mission Portrait session. As a capstone, create a shared one — a single visual of who you are and what you’re building together. Answer the same sections through the “we / us” lens, then generate it in the tool, frame it, and put it where you’ll both see it.
“Two are better than one… A cord of three strands is not quickly broken.”
Ecclesiastes 4:9,12
Our core values as a couple (aim for 4–5), and the shared vision and mission we're building
Go Deeper — optional
For couples who want to linger. Skip it if you’d rather keep things light.
- Where in your relationship do you most need a teachable heart right now?
- What feedback have you resisted that, in hindsight, could help you grow?
- Which INVEST tool made the biggest difference for you — and how will you keep using it?
This Week
A Blessing to Close
“The Lord bless you and keep you; the Lord make his face shine on you and be gracious to you; the Lord turn his face toward you and give you peace.” — Numbers 6:24–26