Why this one
Most couples finish a study, feel encouraged, and are back to normal inside a month. Not because they stopped caring — because nothing changed on the calendar.
1-1-1 is deliberately small. Three commitments, chosen once. Small deposits, big returns.
- 1Daily Deposit - One small act of love, every day.
- 1Weekly Pivot (Grace Place) - Appreciate, Ask, Listen, Act. One area and one small next step, then switch.
- 1Monthly Check-In (Proper Portions) - Review time, energy, responsibilities, and priorities; agree on one adjustment that protects what matters.
1 Daily Deposit
Something small enough that you’ll still do it on a bad day. If it takes more than five minutes, it’s too big.
Pick one — or write your own below
A real question at dinnerCoffee together before the day startsA text in the middle of the dayPray together before bedPhones down for the first 20 minutes homeSay one specific thank-youA six-second kissWalk together after dinnerOur daily deposit
1 Weekly Pivot (Grace Place)
One honest conversation a week. This is where Grace Place lives — same five steps, every week, so the hard things get said while they’re still small.
When we'll do it
What we'll use
1 Monthly Check-In (Proper Portions)
Use Proper Portions once a month, as teammates rather than opponents. Look at what is on each of your plates: time, energy, responsibilities, and priorities. Agree on one adjustment that protects what matters. Money and calendar conversations can support this review.
- How did this month feel for each of us?
- What’s coming that we need to protect against?
- Where are we with money — honestly?
- What’s one thing we want to say yes to next month?
- What’s one thing we need to say no to?
When we'll do it
Put it somewhere you’ll see it
Write the three commitments down and stick them where you’ll both walk past them. A rhythm you can’t remember isn’t a rhythm.
Our 1-1-1, in our own words
“Marriage was never meant to run on leftovers. Keep investing — one daily deposit, one weekly pivot, one monthly check-in.”